I am a wife and mother of 2 beautiful little girls and one precious angel on the way. I have been with my hubby for 11 years and married to him for 7 yrs this August. I am currently 24 weeks pregnant with a precious baby girl who was recently diagnosed with Anencephaly. It was hard at first to swallow, but I have come to terms that this is God's will and he believes that I am strong enough to grow and nurture and love his new little angel before he takes her to heaven to be with him. I am blessed to have this little girl inside of me as well as having such a loving and supportive husband and 2 beautiful little girls who are 6 and 3. Their names are Makailyn Elyse (6) and Makenzie Jean (3). If you would like to know anything else about me do not hesitate to ask me.
Well, as most of you know. I went into the hospital early Tuesday morning August 25th to give birth via c-section to our Angel Nevaeh Grace. She graced us with her beautiful presence at 8:15am and we heard her make a couple little grunts and moved her eyes a little bit. She passed peacefully in mommy's arms with daddy right beside of her 59 mins later at 9:14am right before her big sisters walked into the room to see their baby sister that they had been longing to meet. I am telling you what, they are some very proud big sisters too!!! Makailyn brought her little V-Tech camera and took so many pictures right along with Dina our NILMDTS photographer. She was so adorable. They could not get enough of Nevaeh, and wanted to constantly hold her.
Little Miss Nevaeh Grace Spiker was born Tuesday August 25th 2009 at 8:15am weighing 3lbs. 13.6oz. and was 15 1/4in long. Her little head measured 8 3/4in. and her chest was 10 1/8. She had the cutest little nose and the longest little feet and toes. While I was bathing her Makenzie who is now 3 asked me if I was done. I told her yes that she was all done with her bath and she looked at me so seriously and said "Mommy you forgot to wash her face." I said to her honey I washed it and she said "No you didnt mommy cause it is still dirty." That made me smile and tear up at the same time. Nevaeh was really bruised and turned blue fast, So Makenzie thought that she was dirty. Matter of fact she would not kiss her at first because she said she was too dirty. That was the first thing that she told everyone in the waiting room after seeing her. I know I got a little side tracked there. Nevaeh passed away in my arms at 9:14 am, 59 mins after she entered into our world. I am posting a few pics that I took and will try to update more often, but I dont know when. Here is a link to her obituary if you would like to read it. Nevaeh Grace Spiker's Obituary
Many Blessings and lots of Love, Thank you all for your support and prayers. They are what help me get through each and every day.
Anencephaly is a congenital birth defect. While the word anencephaly means « without a brain », it does not accurately describe a child with such a defect. Children with anencephaly do have a brain, but it is not fully developed. A baby with anencephaly is admittedly born with little scalp, cranium vault, or brain, but he or she does usually have part of the cerebral trunk. Your baby's facial features will be complete; however, there will be an opening in the skull. The size varies from child to child. If you look into the opening, you will see some brain tissue. Your baby's head can be covered with a cap if you do not want to see this. There may be other problems with your baby's body (folded ears, cleft palate, open spine), but usually your baby's body will develop normally.
Can a baby with anencephaly live?
During your pregnancy, your baby will receive everything needed through the mother and so grows well, just like any healthy baby. After birth, however, vital functions cannot be sustained for long. Though breathing is often spontaneous, it is not stable enough. Many babies with anencephaly live throughout the pregnancy to birth. Still, some die prematurely while others die during the delivery. This is called stillbirth. Those who survive may live a few seconds, minutes, hours, or even days. Sadly, the condition is not correctable or reversible. Anencepahly is always fatal.
Why does my baby have anencephaly?
First, it is not your fault. From the beginning of your baby's development, before you even knew you were pregnant, the nervous system (brain, spinal cord) did not develop normally. It is thought that this is due to a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Where do you go from here? Your pregnancy can continue normally because your health is no more at risk than it is during a normal pregnancy. In a few cases, the baby is not able to swallow the fluid in the bag of waters so too much amniotic liquid (hydramnion) is produced. Doctors can remove some of this excess fluid. Although some parents choose to end their pregnancies early and thus end their babies' lives as well, babies with anencephaly can be born normally.
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A carefully considered farewell Anencephaly! To be told that your baby has this birth defect is heartbreaking and shocking. There is no other way to describe this terrible news. Everything you wanted for your babyyour hopes and wishesare gone with the news of this fatal defect. Nothing will ever be the same again. Your pain and grief are very real and very normal. You will not grieve more if your baby lives longer or less if your baby dies very soon. Grief is intense and can't be avoided or lessened. It may, however, be increased. In our experience, we have never heard of any parents who carried their babies as long as they could who regretted that decision, but we have heard of parents who ended the pregnancy early and did regret that decision very much. A carefully planned farewell to your child is the first step you can take to deal with that grief. Take the time to prepare for the birth and death of your baby. Your baby deserves to be welcomed in love and to be given a dignified farewell. Your child is a small human being even if he or she cannot live long.
You can give your baby a name and hold and cradle, Hold your baby in your arms when born even if your baby is stillborn. You can admire and cherish your baby. If you cover the opening on the head with a cap or hat, you can focus fully on your child. Don't forget to take photos and footprints; these will be priceless memories. Unfortunately, burial or cremation costs are not covered expenses in the USA for our babies. But having even a simple memorial ceremony is an opportunity to say a farewell to your baby. The pain felt at the time is very intense, but you will feel that pain no matter what. For closure or relief of grief, it can be important to have this ceremony and some place to feel your sadness. This can be a burial place, a memorial garden, even a small memory box in your home where you put photos or other things that remind you of your baby. This is an official testimony to your child's reality because your baby is a real human being despite the deformity. If your baby is cremated, you may wish to pick a special place to scatter the ashes, a place of comfort and meaning for you.
Will my next baby have a risk of anencephaly?
In most cases anencephaly is an isolated anomaly. It is very unlikely that it should occur again in the same family. Statistically, the rate of recurrence for a woman who has already had a child with anencephaly is 4%. It has been shown that the vitamin folic acid can prevent up to 70% of of potential cases. So, women who have had one baby diagnosed with anencephaly should take 4 mg. of folic acid every day before trying to have another baby. It is important to take this daily because many pregnancies are unplanned.